Overwhelmed? You’re Not Alone

coffee, cup, laptop, memeHello, Thursday Morning!

I know the year is brand new, but I have to ask, are you feeling overwhelmed?

Believe it or not, even experts tell us they feel overwhelmed and under equipped on occasion. I recently read this in a daily devotional from Anne Graham Lotz: “Again and again, I’ve been confronted with hard choices when I’ve had to throw caution to the wind and abandon myself to faith in Him, and Him alone…”

In Ephesians 3:8, Paul talks about his lack of expertise, and how he was the least qualified among the disciples. He continues with:

God saw to it that I was equipped, but you can be sure that it had nothing to do with my natural abilities. And so here I am, preaching and writing about things that are way over my head,… [Eph. 3:8-9 The Message]

Overwhelmed: to overcome in thought or feeling; totally submerged. The ancient word, “whelm” means to engulf entirely, as with water. Interestingly, the word “helmet” comes from this word, but I’m getting distracted by an attractive rabbit trail. 🙂

Whether we’re totally submerged in fear, doubt, or feelings of incompetence, we shouldn’t regard it as a stone wall or a dead end.  Many among the famous suffer fear and doubt, but the key is, they don’t let it hinder them. They step out anyway, like Peter stepping out of the boat, onto the water. He wanted to walk on water like Jesus, but fear and doubt overwhelmed him.

Another key is found in Ephesians 3:12, “When we trust in Him, we’re free to say whatever needs to be said, bold to go wherever we need to go.

Did anyone else think of Star Trek? “…to boldly go where no man has gone before…”

Paul’s response is to get down on his knees and pray. He recognizes that he can do nothing on his own, but he can do all things through Christ. He can do whatever needs to be done, whether he is personally qualified, or not.

A few years back, I was working for a civil engineering company. I had worked for almost six years as a secretary/receptionist, but I had done almost every clerical job in the place. I did whatever was asked of me, even filled in for the bookkeeper in her absence. When that position opened under its new title of business office manager, it was offered to me first, but I was afraid. I didn’t feel qualified. So another person was hired.

Turns out, this person had lied about her qualifications when she applied for the job, so, I ended up doing most of the work, for which she took credit. She received the business office manager’s salary, though I was actually the one doing most of the work. When it was discovered, she lost her job, and the position was given to me. I still didn’t feel qualified. Many times, I struggled with fear and doubt. But I kept going. I took classes and earned certificates. I became qualified.

This didn’t really lessen my fear, but I did feel more equipped to do the job. And years later, the experience helped me get other jobs. If I had listened to my “inner” voice, and spent time in prayer about this, I probably would have accepted the position, saving myself and the company a lot of time and trouble down the road.

My conclusion is that it’s human to battle overwhelming feelings of fear. If you’re a person with a normal (not overblown) ego, you will have to fight that battle often. I’ve dealt with fear every time I step onto a plane, or head someplace I’ve never been. It’s daunting. But when I face these circumstances with faith, after spending time in prayer and listening, I have the strength to push past that fear.

Queen Esther had to battle fear in her circumstances. If you know her story, you know the reason for her fear. She could die, simply by approaching the king (her husband) without being called into his presence. But the overwhelming element was this: if she didn’t approach the king, the entire Hebrew  population could die. All of her family and friends. And, as her Uncle Mordecai told her, she would not be safe either, if the secret of her lineage became known.

How did she overcome her fear? The Bible tells us she declared a fast, spent time in prayer, and listened. She heard from God, who gave her the plan that would save not only her life, but an entire nation.

Sometimes, it comes down to this: What if I don’t go? What will the consequences be? Who will suffer besides me? Esther stepped out in faith. Peter also did, but his emotions overcame his faith and he went under. Jesus didn’t let him drown, however. So my take-away from that story is, Jesus won’t let me drown in my insecurities. With each new experience, my faith is built and stretched. If I fail, I’m stronger for having tried.

What is your most overwhelming fear? How do you overcome it? I’d love to hear from you.

Here’s an excellent blog written by a friend of mine, especially for those who face fear: Jerusha Agen’s Fear Warrior Blog

Resolution With Purpose

Note to self: This is the first Thursday of 2018. Make it count.

coffee, cup, laptop, memeHello, Thursday Morning friends! I hope you had a wonderful holiday season. In a way, it’s difficult to believe the season is already behind us. Did your holidays rush past like a whirlwind, or drag by, like a tired sloth?

I hope the former is true, because that means you enjoyed lots of activity. Now, on to the business at hand.

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I often resolve to do what’s right, but that resolve tends to dissolve a couple of months into the year. So, this year, I need to pay more attention to the small things. Toward the end of 2017, I became overwhelmed by all the to-do’s on my list. Too late, I realized I’d said “yes” too many times. My to-do list became a ball and chain.

I was so overwhelmed and discouraged, I even shelved my latest work-in-progress. Sound familiar? Why do we do this to ourselves?

Thankfully, all the kinks worked out. As soon as I set that WIP aside, the inspiration returned, and I was able to get back to it and finish before the end of the year–with hours to spare. 🙂

How do I avoid the traffic jam at the end of the year? It comes back to the paying attention. I need to be careful and prayerful about the things I say “yes” to. I need to think them through. I don’t want to be too hesitant, and miss out on things, but which ones are those? How do I determine what will end up on my list?

So my New Year’s resolution is to be determined. That sounds funny, as though I’m not sure what my resolution is, and I’m putting off the choice of one–TBD. That’s not the case at all. I aim to be more determined in my efforts this year. I want to accomplish the things I set out to do, whether that is taking care of my health, stretching myself intellectually, or spending more time with my loved ones. I’d love to do a bit of travel this year. Study the Bible, and share the love of Jesus more. Research a new book, and make lots of new friends.

These are the things that count in life. I hope you’ll do a bit of soul-searching, examine your heart and life and come up with something similar. Set your mind on it, and don’t give up. Keep yourself accountable. Leave me a comment, if you like. Share your resolution, or your word for 2018. Share your blessings.

Make life count.

Goodbye 2017

coffee, cup, laptop, memeHello! It’s Thursday Morning again, and guess what I forgot to do?

Yes, I forgot to schedule this post.

In my defense, the violet was blooming, and caught my attention. I love when the violet blooms in the depth of winter. It reminds me that even in the midst of trials, you can still be a blessing to others–like that beautiful violet.

In my defense, I was busy pouring a cup of coffee — my first cup of the day — when I suddenly realized I had not put away the Christmas coffee mugs. But then, I realized this particular one is not too Christmas-y, and could be dubbed a “winter” coffee mug.

It was only after contemplating all this that I woke to the fact, it was Thursday and I hadn’t scheduled a post.

Hello, Thursday Morning just wouldn’t work on a Friday. But, it is still morning, though later than usual. The temperature is 13 and feels like 2–just thought I’d throw that in there. When you get to be my age, your attention tends to bounce around a little.

So, I hope you’ll forgive me that I almost missed the last Thursday post of 2017, when I had planned to formally say goodbye to 2017. Thus the title, “Goodbye 2017.”

Most of all, I hope you know how much I appreciate you, my followers, and readers. Sorry I almost forgot, but I hope I at least provided a giggle, and maybe an ounce of inspiration about the violet.

May your 2018 start out amazing. May the blessings build as you go. May you bloom where you’re planted, like Daniel in my October post.

Stay warm, and see you in 2018 with fresh, hot coffee, and (hopefully) fresh topics for Hello, Thursday Morning!

Blessings, anyone? I hope you’ll comment with your 2017 blessings.

The Year I Said I Do

coffee, cup, laptop, memeAnother Thursday Hello! This is the time of year when the days fly past so quickly, I struggle to keep up. Know what I mean?

We are just days away from Christmas, and many of you are rushed and harried, worried you won’t finish in time. Let go of some of the little things. The unimportant things no one will even notice aren’t done. Make room for the big things, like time with family. Hugs, kisses, and “I love you’s”.

Today is important to me for another reason. It’s my mother’s birthday. She’s barely twenty years older than me, so we kind of grew up together. When I was a kid in school, everyone thought she was my sister. So, happy birthday, Mom.

Another reason today is important, and probably the biggest reason–forty three years ago today, I said, “I do”. Or, maybe it was, “I will.” It’s been so long now, I can’t remember.

We definitely grew up together. I was so excited on that (long ago) day, as I anticipated what the future held for us. Two kids in love. We had a lot of fun over the years, and troubles, too. But add it all up, and the sum is still on the positive side. It still adds up to love.

When we left the church that day, my brand new husband told me he needed to stop by home to pick up something he’d forgotten. He’d forgotten underwear. I sat in the car, wondering how you could forget to pack underwear? He came back out to the car and said it was a good thing he stopped by, he’d also forgotten to pack his spare jeans.

I frowned, wondering–what had he packed in his suitcase, if he’d left out such important items? Turns out, he’d forgotten to pack. Anything. This was the first time, but definitely not the last. I would always help him pack for a trip. He tended to forget important things, like a toothbrush, or a razor.

December 21, 1974

And how many times, over the years, would we leave the house, only to return minutes later for important things like his wallet? And, just in case you’re thinking he only forgets material things–a short time after we married, he went to introduce me to someone, and forgot my name. He introduced me as, “my wife.”

We finally made it Pigeon Forge, Tennessee and spent a few pre-Christmas days in the mountains. The pass was closed because of snow, but we drove up there anyway, and joined in a huge snowball fight with other sightseers. I’m sure most of them were also on their honeymoon.

I’ve no doubt, many of you have similar funny stories you could share, and I hope you will! Leave me a comment, and join the conversation!

Now, since I won’t see you until after, I’d love to wish you a very Merry Christmas.

I hope all the rushing around and last-minute preparations add up to a wonderful, memorable event. Don’t forget to take lots of photos!

Christmas Movie Review

coffee, cup, laptop, memeHello, it’s Thursday Morning, and for many of us, the countdown is on. Eleven more days till Christmas. Rather than discuss my lack of readiness for the holidays, I’m going to take a break. Yes, I’ve been doing a lot of that, lately. It’s called “survival mode.”

On my latest break, I watched one of the new Christmas offerings on Netflix, A Christmas Prince. With many of the Christmas romance movies, you need to turn off your brain and not think too much. Overall, this movie delivered a pleasant experience. The scenery is beautiful, taking place in the fictional country of Aldovia (kind of reminded me of The Princess Diaries’ Genovia). There’s lots of snow, a couple of beautiful horses (I love horses), beautiful horses running on snow, and a prince. Who can resist a prince?

The main actors in A Christmas Prince are talented,  likable, and believable. Some of the secondary actors are not as skilled, but they’re not on screen very much, so it doesn’t matter. I enjoyed the amazing Alice Krige as the queen. I liked Princess Emily, too, played by Honor Kneafsey.

So, what’s the movie about? A young reporter (Rose McIver) is sent to Aldovia to cover the possible coronation of the new king (Ben Lamb, aka Prince Richard), if he decides to show up. When she’s mistaken for Emily’s new American tutor, she decides to use the opportunity to infiltrate the royal house and get the scoop on the situation. She meets the prince, falls in love (no wonder why), and gets caught up in intrigue.

As in most of the Christmas movies, love happens really fast. I can’t complain about that, because it happened to me forty-three years ago (Dec. 21 by the way). Still married to my guy, so I know it’s possible. Good to know.

What appealed to me most about this movie:

  • the sweet romance
  • the location and cinematography
  • the good writing
  • and whoever did the costumes (I didn’t find that listed), paid attention to detail. The queen and Prince Richard were always dressed tastefully–right down to their shoes–yes, I noticed his shoes. They looked the part of European royals. This lent reality to the scenes for me, and made it a joy to watch.

Another appealing quality: the humor infused throughout.I’m a fan of humor, it helps me “adult.”

Cons: I’m only mentioning one, though there were several: the lack of security in the castle. Again, we are often asked to leave our thinking caps on the hook when watching Christmas movies. The breach of security didn’t bother me, but I did see some complaints in other reviews. And, by the way, I chose to enjoy the good, and not be bothered by the schmaltz. Maybe Aldovia is such a peaceful place, they don’t need security? We are watching a fairy tale, after all.

A review of A Christmas Prince, from Netflix: Tasteful humor, sweet romance, an actual story with a plot, all combine to make this movie an overall pleasant experience. Read more [Click to Tweet]

Guess what? I’ll be watching this one again. I gave it a thumb’s up on Netflix. And a double “ahhh…”, right here on Hello, Thursday Morning.

What’s your favorite all-time Christmas movie? What makes it your favorite?