I went to a wedding shower the other day. It brought back fond memories of my wedding shower, where I received index cards with tips for a happy marriage written on them. Of course there were the usual ones, the common sense ones and the ones that read like the proverbs of Solomon.

Here are a few that I found helpful:

• Don’t spend too much time together.
• Spend as much time together as possible.
• Be your own person.
• Submit yourself to him. He is your master.

Well, maybe not so much, but here are some I really did like:

• Laugh. A lot.
• Never stop dating.
• Make him think he’s special.

And then I added one:

• When there’s something you really want to do, make him think it’s his idea.

So, what’s the secret to a long and happy marriage? There are no set rules, because everyone is different. But faithfulness, love, kindness, honor, interest, desire, those are all good words…and humor helps. Laugh—a lot!